I am not sure if I would be sane right now if I was not fully prepared ( OK. The me still being sane part is definitely questionable.)
If there is one main take away I have learned from this adoption is how much we take for granted all of those basic formative years of love/attachment and the teaching of basic boundaries from parents. And, what we are up against if that foundation is not in place.
My friends..at times, it is not pretty.
I am lucky to shower twice a week. Our families clothes are in laundry bins not drawers (OK> so that was the case before the adoption.. but now the clothes in the bins are dirty... not clean.) I have not seen the bottom of my kitchen sink in a few months.
And, my bio kids are trying to locate their Mother.
Although things have improved dramatically in the last few months, we are still in the trenches of mayhem.
So let's start with sleep or lack there of...
They both have major sleep problems.
Jia wakes up with crazy rageful protests. Think slam your finger in the door screaming. I am not sure if I can classify them as night terrors because she is responsive during her wake-up times.
But, her screaming certainly terrifies me.
We have tried every approach. We are currently co-sleeping... or co-sleepless. At least, the screaming stops.
Jude does this crazy ants in his pants anxiety shuffle and moans for hours in his bed at night. It is wild.
So, here are the top ten quirky habits Jude could learn to outgrow before his 3rd birthday. (if only for his Mother's sanity)
I have to write this stuff down, so we do not forget them because they are pretty hilarious.
1. My head is not a napkin. This habit is getting a little more uncomfortable now that I have hair.
2. Taking my food off my plate and putting it all back on my plate multiple times while I eat.
3. Taking things from everyone. Jia's arm restraints after surgery were no exception. Envy can be a strange thing.
4. Screaming at the top of my lungs and stamping my feet when I am even slightly corrected.
5. Drinking half the liquid in my cup then spitting the rest of the liquid out on my shirt. This equals spending the day with soaking wet shirt. (Emma observed the other day that I actually just continue to hold the cup in the tilted position after I am done drinking it.)
6. Stuffing an entire mouth full of food in my mouth, then of course, when begin to choke, spitting my food out and screaming hysterically.
7. Taking one bite of every fruit in the fruit bowl then putting them back into the fruit bowl for Mom to find.
9. Running at full speed and doing multiple face plants a day. This equates to constant bumps and bruises on my face, and my Mom constantly yelling "walk."
10. High pitch squealing whenever the dog barks. OK add high pitch squealing for no reason.
Here are Jia's top 10...
1. Asking for more food, and after I receive it, throw it or refuse to eat it.
2. Dying cat screams whenever anyone walks near me, takes a toy from me, or bothers me in anyway.
3. Dying cat screams for no reason.
5. Assaulting my brother Jude when I think no one is looking.
6. Dumping all my liquid on my plate, so I can play fun games with my food.
7. Taking every object off of every countertop in the house.
8. Emptying out every cabinet and drawer in the house.
9. Thinking I have free reign over every object in the house including items in the trash can.
10. Groaning. (My Mom would actually prefer whining.)
Fun (Exhausting) Times.
On a side note, I gave Jia her first haircut. The different lengths of her hair growing out was starting to get out of control. The older girls were laughing at me because they said I gave a her a China doll hair cut. So, I had to take some cute photos in their Chinese outfits.
They are sure cute and lovable despite their quirky habits. :)